Friday, July 17th, 2009
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Public Apology: Dear Brown-Haired Woman

Public ApologyDear brown-haired woman,

I'm sorry for bothering you while we were watching Stand By Me at the movie theater on White Street in Red Bank, New Jersey.

We'd probably been bothering you for a while, actually, my friends and I. We'd probably been bothering most everybody in the theater that night, before you finally turned around and shushed us, as we only should have been shushed-and, if anything, more harshly. God, it must have sucked to have been around me and my friends back then. We were in high school, going into sophomore year, and always trying very hard to impress each other. Particularly impressive, or so we thought at the time, was a willingness to shock or annoy other people in the world. And to seem cool and tough while doing it. (I don't pretend this made us much different from most other 15 year-old boys. But I also don't want to offer that as an excuse today. In that sense, I guess I'm offering this apology on behalf of bothersome 15-year-old boys everywhere.)

It was at a particularly emotional part in the movie, right after River Phoenix breaks down and cries to Wil Wheaton while telling the story about how he'd stolen the milk money box at school, but tried to return it, only to have a teacher take it and buy herself a new dress-while he still took the blame. "I guess I'm just a pussy, huh?" Phoenix says. (And of course, he was by far the coolest and toughest of the four boys we watching in this coming-of-age wilderness adventure-he'd brought his father's gun along and everything.) Wheaton comforts him with an arm around the shoulder.

The next scene opens with Wheaton sitting alone in the forest at dawn. A deer, a young doe, walks up and stands there, quivering but calm, not ten feet away. They make eye contact, Wheaton and the deer, and some profound message about life is imparted. This was when I said, loudly, so as to bother anyone who might have actually been enjoying the movie, and thus impress my friends: "Where's that gun?!"

A dumb joke. And dishonest. (Like I was some big hunter guy. I was probably wearing two pastel polo shirts at the time, with both collars turned up. But that's another apology for another time.) It successfully popped a silent moment, though, and my friends burst out laughing.

You turned around in your seat a couple aisles in front of us and hissed. I think you may have called me an asshole. Which, of course, made my friends laugh louder.

You were right. It's pretty easy to shock and annoy people in the safe anonymity of a dark movie theater. (Of course, now we have the Internet.) Pretty easy to seem cool and tough while doing it-at least to your fellow 15-year-old friends. Thinking back now, nothing could have been less cool or less tough. Nothing more obviously put-on.

Stupid beautiful deer.

Dave

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18 Comments / Post A Comment

Do you have business cards with that title?

Still waiting on the new logo…

Tuna Surprise (#573)

Does this mean I need to apologize for that time I saw American Pie and right after Seann William Scott drank the cup of semen I yelled out "now you know what it's like to be a woman"? Because, as I remember it, that was pure comedy gold.

Also, consider apologizing to every person west of the 100th meridian for spelling Phoenix – "Pheonix".

KenWheaton (#401)

Can you now apologize on behalf of the adult moviegoers at United Artist on Court Street in Brooklyn?

davidwatts (#72)

Also, apologize to your brother Wil for us. Great Twitter! Love his work as The Blue Beetle!

Maevemealone (#968)

Ha, yes! The trick is to not see good movies there. I fully enjoyed the running commentary throughout "The Mothman Prophecies" and the "Girl, you quit takin' those pills, they making you crazy!" comments throughout a screening of "The Others". You have to adjust your expectations for any theater that is showing "Soul Plane II" on three screens.

The deer part reminded me of driving home last week and 2 deer ran out in front of my car to cross the road. I always thought that was a made up excuse drunk drivers used when they smashed up their cars when no one else was around. So I apologize to Luke Perry and Judd Nelson (I think) for thinking you were making that up.

HiredGoons (#603)

Up in Vermont the big hazard is moose, those fuckers can kill you if you hit them.

I was driving to school and a deer literally ran INTO the side of my car. I think it must have been dyslexic.

Bittersweet (#765)

Nope, just prone to panicking. And, as Dave said, not that smart.

I have to stop reading these… I have still not forgiven you for that failed finger banging in the 80's.

eg (#1,137)

Dave Bry–Public Apology–What have you done? Guns and Coulter as ad placements? Repent!

Today is SingleMuslim.com. Even better.

mathnet (#27)

"We're 14 minutes in. Do you think Tom Cruise will survive this explosion??"

Dave Bry (#422)

All right. I'll bite:

I'm sorry, Mathnet, but I don't understand your question.

mathnet (#27)

Dave Bry, did you get my messages? I'm in love with you.

(I was just remembering the shit my friend B would yell during tension-filled, expository action-movie scenes with big stars.)

Uh, you're not sore or anything with us, Dave…right?

Dave Bry (#422)

Oh, no. The farthest thing from that.
I actually don't get the Tom Cruise reference. (Did he have an uncredited role in "Stand by Me?") And I wanted to use the opportunity to apologize to Mathnet. (Based on an earlier request.)

mathnet (#27)

I would totally accept your apology? If I weren't afraid you'd never say 'sorry' again.

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