http://www.theawl.com/ Be Less Stupid Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:15:35 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-8423 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-8423#comments Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:15:35 +0000 lagniappe http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-8423 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-8423/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7039 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7039#comments Sat, 30 May 2009 04:54:37 +0000 Hez http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7039 love that song.]]> love that song.]]> http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7039/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7036 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7036#comments Sat, 30 May 2009 02:06:27 +0000 Tulletilsynet http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7036 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7036/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7008 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7008#comments Fri, 29 May 2009 16:41:41 +0000 pot-pourri http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7008 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-7008/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6854 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6854#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 22:34:02 +0000 Windy City Fred http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6854 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6854/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6853 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6853#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 21:47:50 +0000 Chris http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6853 Fruitless endeavor, Patrick. She Has Spoken.]]> Fruitless endeavor, Patrick. She Has Spoken.]]> http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6853/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6847 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6847#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 20:02:39 +0000 mathnet http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6847 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6847/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6838 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6838#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 18:50:33 +0000 karion http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6838 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6838/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6834 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6834#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 18:39:48 +0000 fitta http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6834 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6834/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6829 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6829#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 18:27:47 +0000 Patrick M http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6829 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6829/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6828 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6828#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 18:25:45 +0000 Patrick M http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6828 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6828/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6826 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6826#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 18:19:04 +0000 sargasm http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6826 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6826/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6806 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6806#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 17:12:52 +0000 DorothyMantooth http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6806 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6806/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6804 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6804#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 17:10:14 +0000 DorothyMantooth http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6804 contracted to Feel The Magic. (Also, Emily's absolutely right about the fear-of-being-without-the-person-for-the-rest-of-your-life thing.)]]> contracted to Feel The Magic. (Also, Emily's absolutely right about the fear-of-being-without-the-person-for-the-rest-of-your-life thing.)]]> http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6804/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6798 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6798#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 16:46:40 +0000 lagniappe http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6798 fear? I think all the terror involved should serve as an indication of what a sham marriage is. Now I've felt a few times -- when I was younger (in my twenties) -- that I could never be without whoever my girlfriend was at the time; I always saw us spending the rest of our lives together (and it never terrorized me; in fact, I've felt like that about all my girlfriends, this why I've had very few long term relationships.) But then we'd inevitably grow apart(per the Golden Rule of twentysomething relationships) and later I couldn't believe I felt that way about another person. Sad, but true. The older I've gotten (I'm 37 now), the more I realize I'll probably never get married, and I'm more than okay with that. I still believe in Love, and companionship, and trust and honoring, but like you illustrated: marriage is antithetical to human aspirations, which are ceaseless, and it has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear. So you might as well convert to Christianity and repent while you're at it.]]> fear? I think all the terror involved should serve as an indication of what a sham marriage is. Now I've felt a few times -- when I was younger (in my twenties) -- that I could never be without whoever my girlfriend was at the time; I always saw us spending the rest of our lives together (and it never terrorized me; in fact, I've felt like that about all my girlfriends, this why I've had very few long term relationships.) But then we'd inevitably grow apart(per the Golden Rule of twentysomething relationships) and later I couldn't believe I felt that way about another person. Sad, but true. The older I've gotten (I'm 37 now), the more I realize I'll probably never get married, and I'm more than okay with that. I still believe in Love, and companionship, and trust and honoring, but like you illustrated: marriage is antithetical to human aspirations, which are ceaseless, and it has nothing to do with love and everything to do with fear. So you might as well convert to Christianity and repent while you're at it.]]> http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6798/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6794 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6794#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 16:40:18 +0000 mathnet http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6794 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6794/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6793 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6793#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 16:31:20 +0000 spanish bombs http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6793 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6793/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6789 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http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6726/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6721 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6721#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 14:23:07 +0000 metoometoo http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6721 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6721/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6719 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6719#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 14:22:52 +0000 Alex Balk http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6719 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6719/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6718 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28 May 2009 14:10:01 +0000 kenlayne http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6706 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6706/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6705 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6705#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 14:03:50 +0000 karion http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6705 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6705/feed 0 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6702 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6702#comments Thu, 28 May 2009 13:59:38 +0000 RonMwangaguhunga http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6702 http://www.theawl.com/2009/05/social-as-when-two-men-fall-in-love#comment-6702/feed 0 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